“I remember one day when my daughter, who was in Grade 3 at the time, came home in tears. The cause wasn’t friend drama, bullies or scraped knees.
No, no. She had received a 9 out of 10 on her latest spelling test.
I didn’t understand what was happening. I couldn’t make out her words in the midst of her snuffles and sobs. Gradually, I pieced it together. She had only ever received a perfect mark on spelling tests and was having a super hard time with this “failure.” After trying to point out that this was still a very good mark, and appealing to first logic (nope) and then her history of excellent marks (not interested), I changed my approach.”